I really like the self-defense aspects of jiu-jitsu. Some people might think the choke defenses in BJJ aren’t necessary because they can’t see any self-respecting bad guy using that kind of hold on anyone. I’ve seen a couple of old-school-pimp-chokes in my day, both used on women and both at parties. I’m only going to talk about one of them, because the other one I was a little too inebriated to remember exactly.
The one I do remember was at a party while I was in college. A guy I knew had shown up to a house-party with one of the two girls he was dating. The other girl was there as well (unbeknownst to him). After the girls figured out what was going on, a fight broke out between the two women. The fight was quickly broken up and one of the girls was pinned to a wall (by her boyfriend) with a one-handed “choke” hold. I use the quotation marks around the word choke because the girl who was supposedly being choked was screaming and cursing at the other girl the entire time (that was until the boyfriend hammer fisted his girlfriend (one time) on the top of her head, then she shut up). If she was really being choked she wouldn’t have been so vocal.
At the time I’m not sure why I didn’t see the scene for what it was—domestic violence. Now that I have jiu-jitsu I can see all the things she could have done to escape that hold. So, the throat-grab choke holds really do exist out in the real world and their defenses should definitely be taught. Other things that should be taught are: not to take a girl to a party that might be attended by another girl your dating, or to bonk a girl (or anyone for that matter) on the top of the head to shut them up. I guess there are a lot of lessons to learn from that story, other than the defenses for a chokehold.